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What Are You Wearing Today?
Here's a quick and dirty mosaic of all outfits so far:
|Charlotte Russe dress, ModCloth shoes, Jean Jacket. Or is it Jeans Jacket?|
So, am I a Narcissist? Dictionary defines as:
Excessive preoccupation with self and lack of empathy for others.We all have ego. There's a saying - "I'm an egomaniac with an inferiority complex". I am not a narcissist. In fact, every single trait here is opposite of who I am. And yet, the fear I have of becoming such a person is great. I want to always risk and be OK when I fail. I want to always feel compassion and give people a chance. I want to always feel among people and not above or below them. I want to always be able to take criticism and make myself better, stronger, more. I have no fame, power or success, and really? That is just fine with me.
Narcissism is the personality trait that features an exaggerated sense of the person's own importance and abilities. People with this trait believe themselves to be uniquely gifted and commonly engage in fantasies of fabulous success, power, or fame. Arrogant and egotistical, narcissists are often snobs, defining themselves by their ability to associate with (or purchase the services of) the "best" people. They expect special treatment and concessions from others. Paradoxically, these individuals are generally insecure and have low self-esteem. They require considerable admiration from others and find it difficult to cope with criticism. Adversity or criticism may cause the narcissistic person to either counterattack in anger or withdraw socially. Because narcissistic individuals cannot cope with setbacks or failure, they often avoid risks and situations in which defeat is a possibility.
There is a difference between being nice and passive and having compassion. I am so grateful I know this difference, have learned this difference and practice this difference. I practice being humble. I practice being loving and kind and patient. There is nothing passive about me. I am honest and to the point, but also kind. That doesn't mean I am nice. But it doesn't mean I am a bitch either.
That said, it's OK to like yourself. To have fun with your physical appearance and feel better when you look better. It's not all I am by any means, but we are in these physical vessels for our time on Earth, so we may as well have fun with it and rock some kick ass heels while we can. We are complex creatures, and owning the positive and the just plain ugly human parts of ourselves is all part of it. Acceptance and love for ourselves and our flaws, our quirks, our intricacies, our beauty, is all part of the ride. I for one, am enjoying the hell out of it.
I said last night at a meeting when talking about a period in my life that was just OK, "I could have stayed that way for the rest of my life and have been fine. But who wants fine? I want GOOD."
You're fabulous. Love the pictures.ReplyDelete
It's reasons like these that I truly believe our souls are connected. Amen to this, sister! And keep taking care of yourself. You are awesome! Faults & all. That's what makes you wonderfully you.ReplyDelete
The Petite Young Blonde wants your damn glasses!!ReplyDelete
I absolutely LOVE YOU!!! I look forward to your daily outfit pins :) <3 Tiffany MillerReplyDelete
I think you are a bit narcissistic...maybe we all are.ReplyDelete
Yeah, ummm, so, would it be narcissistic of me to ask what size those clothes are and can I have 'em when you get all fatty preggers?ReplyDelete
I don't think it is... and I think you should. Just sayin'.... *with love, of course*
As long as you fear becoming a narcissist you will never be one. As soon as I read the definition, I knew it wasn't you. I strive to be like you, and I want to thank you for setting a shining example. Although we have been through different obstacles in our lives, you handle yours with a grace and dignity I want to achieve. I love the way you encourage people without pushing and that you listen without judging. You're one of my favorite people. Love, light, and luck to you and yours. Continue to be fabulous! Sincerely - Jerri Lynn W.ReplyDelete
I think you will have just as much fun modeling your maternity clothes...they've really come a long way in the fashion world!!ReplyDelete
There is nothing wrong with it at all. And I, for one, hope you continue to enjoy your fashion and pretty shoes and share your happy outfits with us well into fatty preggers and beyond. And I hope you dress your future dumpster baby as fashionably as makes you and dumpster hubs and baby happy. I'll be a little bit jealous, but that's okay. :) BTW, jean, definitely not jeans.ReplyDelete
I love your taste in clothes and you put outfits together so well. You're not a narcissist. You're sharing things about yourself with your readers and that's what we all do as bloggers. Enjoy your journey and we'll enjoy it with you!ReplyDelete
Some people say that wanting to become a parent is narcissism in itself. . . the vanity of wanting to see yourself in child form and this tiny creature who is obviously going to be perfect. As a parent of a child under 2, I am still working on surviving on 5 hours of sleep and not gagging at poopy diapers (and poopy clothing, poopy blankets and sheets, carpets, car seats, stairs, chairs, couches . . . you get the picture). Thus I've come to the conclusion that I have earned the right to be a narcissistic parent whose child is the best thing in the world. Shoooot, he better be, or else I'm not going to be able to tolerate any more poo, 2 am wake up calls, etc.ReplyDelete
You're gonna rock it when it comes to being a parental narcissist. It'll be a little you who you can put awesome clothes (though maybe not heels) on and take adorable photos without a mirror!
you "want good," but you got great. but that's just yo' mama's opinion.ReplyDelete
Holy snot balls! I love you! -ChunkReplyDelete
I really love your photo montage. My eye was drawn to the pink dress, so I have to go check that action out more closely. And when you Facebooked today about your jean(s) jacket, I was praying to the little lord jebus that you weren't wearing it with jeans, but then again I already figured you wouldn't be so silly.ReplyDelete
Humility isn't hiding yourself in shame....it's an accurate appraisal of onesself. It's not thinking you're greater than and not thinking you're less than. People often mistake humility for feeling unworthy, or mistake it for shame. (and yes, ive seen some super long time 12 steppers do this....my 26yr clean something or other sponsor used to cry when people looked up to him, he didn't feel worthy....I explained he was fucking up the whole principle of humility because who was he to judge weather or not he was worthy?) Any how, if you're sexay and you know it and have fun with it...that's an accurate self appraisal. My ex-non-addict husband once said humility is knowing you are important without thinking you are special. You are awesome, and you are not a narcissist. We all have some of those tendencies, but I for one think you are an amazingly beautiful woman (totally not hitting on you), I'm an artist and I know beauty when I see it. I love love love the fact you celebrate being a woman! Enjoy who you are and don't apologize for it. btw....I would like to know why the fascination with horn rimmed glasses, just your take on it. I personally love the shit out of them, and it gives you a funky edge over traditional business attire.ReplyDelete
Hah, I love that you take so many pictures of yourself. Means you are happy with what you see (inside and out).ReplyDelete
I read this and you're right. But more importantly, I also own that gold floral Old Navy dress and it is surprisingly smoking hot on! I also bought their chevron dress and that is super cute. I love how you've styled it, that's what I'm bad at. I only wish I could enlarge the pic!ReplyDelete